The most common interpretation of my attitude has often been described as indifference. Of course, that isn’t correct. A more accurate statement would be that I don’t give a fuck.
Not about you. Your children. Your job. Your thoughts. Your hopes. Your dreams. Your expectations.
Don’t make the same mistake that others make though. It isn’t that I am indifferent. Indifference describes a state of being that requires effort. Not to care, or to care so much that it forces you to pretend not to care. That sort of thing takes WAY more energy than I’m willing to exert. For anyone. Or anything.
I really just don’t give a fuck.
And that is the secret to my happiness.
I will share one of the most important things you will ever learn. I am happy because I don’t give a fuck. The two go together.
Unhappy people tend to care.
In fact, the more they care, the unhappier they become. They care what people think. They care what people say. They care what people do. A by-product of caring is feeling upset because whatever it is that you care about will invariably disappoint you. Most people become unhappy because they are disappointed. That in and of itself isn’t a big deal. The problem though is that since people care about so many things, the weight of all that caring and disappointment will bog them down.
You might be thinking that I’m advocating not caring about things, but that isn’t correct either. What I am advocating is learning what is worthy of your attention. What things in your life deserve caring about. Once you learn to weed out the things that don’t matter, the easier it is not to give a fuck. The fewer fucks you give tot things that don’t matter, the more fucks you can give toward things that DO matter.