I Can’t Care Less

The most common interpretation of my attitude has often been described as indifference. Of course, that isn’t correct. A more accurate statement would be that I don’t give a fuck.

Not about you. Your children. Your job. Your thoughts. Your hopes. Your dreams. Your expectations.

Don’t make the same mistake that others make though. It isn’t that I am indifferent. Indifference describes a state of being that requires effort. Not to care, or to care so much that it forces you to pretend not to care. That sort of thing takes WAY more energy than I’m willing to exert. For anyone. Or anything.

I really just don’t give a fuck.

And that is the secret to my happiness.

I will share one of the most important things you will ever learn. I am happy because I don’t give a fuck. The two go together.

Unhappy people tend to care.

A lot.

About everything.

In fact, the more they care, the unhappier they become. They care what people think. They care what people say. They care what people do.  A by-product of caring is feeling upset because whatever it is that you care about will invariably disappoint you. Most people become unhappy because they are disappointed. That in and of itself isn’t a big deal. The problem though is that since people care about so many things, the weight of all that caring and disappointment will bog them down.

You might be thinking that I’m advocating not caring about things, but that isn’t correct either. What I am advocating is learning what is worthy of your attention. What things in your life deserve caring about. Once you learn to weed out the things that don’t matter, the easier it is not to give a fuck. The fewer fucks you give tot things that don’t matter, the more fucks you can give toward things that DO matter.




Cheater’s Never Prosper…

“Winning is Everything, it’s the ONLY thing.”

– Henry Russell (“Red”) Sanders, one time coach of the UCLA Bruin football team in the 1950s.

So the Patriots cheated again… though that’s not really surprising given their history since Belichick took over as head coach… what’s surprising is the New England fans discounting all the allegations as unimportant… so starved for validation that their shitty town is relevent, they ignore the obvious… every championship the Patriots have won in the last 15 years is tainted by the greasy stain of Belichick’s need to win at any cost. It doesn’t matter if they would have won anyway… what matters is fans will never believe it because they cheated… again.

The NFL is contemplating what punishment, if any, is warranted.

The thing is, the only real punishment that would hurt Belichick would be a year long suspension… For those unfamiliar with the history of the Patriots over the last 15 or so years, this isn’t the first time the Patriots have been on the wrong side of the rule book. A few years ago, the Patriots staff was video taping the opposing teams’ practice which is against the rules… Belichick was fined $500k (which barely registered since I think Belichick spends more than that on Hoodie’s and scissors to cut off the sleeves with) and the team was penalized further with the loss of a draft pick… or course, that loss was barely noticed (because they just traded for another one)… giving him a year long ban from ALL football operations would literally drive him crazy though, and I think that would be the best way to rid the NFL of one of the more notoriously unsportsmanlike head coaches in sports.

Yes, cheating has existed in all professional sports… but it is usually to give a team an edge they need… in the case of the Patriots, they’re cheating because they can, not because they need to… cheating for cheating’s sake if you will… It just boggles the mind to think about the lengths Belichick will go to stick it to the opposing team for no other reason than to stick it to the other team.

Lest you think my thoughts on the matter are clouded by my fanatical love of the San Diego Chargers, my issue with this whole debacle is that it isn’t JUST letting the air out of the balls… its a flagrant disregard for good sportsmanship… its a virulent belief that they are above the rules… heck, it isn’t as if letting the air out of the balls had even the slightest impact on the outcome… it IS though the simple fact that they cheat and relish in the cheating that chaps the hides of anyone who actually cares about sportsmanship.

Honestly, if there is any justice in the world, come next sunday when the Seahawks and Patriots take the field for the superbowl, it will be another lopsided victory for the seahawks. Cheater’s should never prosper after all… course, the world is an unfair place and maybe that’s why Belichick cheats.


I’ve got a number of hard core republican friends. I try to avoid discussions about politics or religion with them because we share completely different opinions. A few weeks ago, in talking to one of them we got on the subject of Cliven Bundy… In case you’re unaware, good ol’ Cliven Bundy is a rancher in Nevada who sort of had a standoff with the Bureau of Land Management and the government over grazing fees for government lands. Cliven believed his family owned the land and he refused to pay the government for the use of that land, and the government disagreed. This lead to the government attempting to round up his cattle. This of course riled up some of the more republican members of the local populace and they protested… with assault and hunting rifles. Thankfully no one was hurt and the round up was cancelled.

My buddy seems to think it was another example of the government trying to infringe upon American freedom. I explained that it was nothing more than a man who refused to pay for fair use and had nothing to do with “patriotism” or “American” liberties, but… being a gun-toting, god fearing, obama hatin’ Republican, he said it was indeed the “socialist president trying to enslave the American people,” and nothing I could say would change his mind.

I really just thought that Cliven Bundy was just another piece of shit in a long line of cattle barons who wanted to protect his profit at all costs… and Cliven Bundy has helped me prove the point by comments he made to the New York Times on wednesday…

“I want to tell you one more thing I know about the Negro,” he said. Mr. Bundy recalled driving past a public-housing project in North Las Vegas, “and in front of that government house the door was usually open and the older people and the kids — and there is always at least a half a dozen people sitting on the porch — they didn’t have nothing to do. They didn’t have nothing for their kids to do. They didn’t have nothing for their young girls to do.

“And because they were basically on government subsidy, so now what do they do?” he asked. “They abort their young children, they put their young men in jail, because they never learned how to pick cotton. And I’ve often wondered, are they better off as slaves, picking cotton and having a family life and doing things, or are they better off under government subsidy? They didn’t get no more freedom. They got less freedom.”

I was off by one adjective though… he’s not just a piece of shit… he’s a RACIST piece of shit… Course, my buddy will probably explain that the New York Times is just a haven for socialist propaganda and this god fearing patriot is being misquoted… that’s one of the perks of being republican i guess… you can simply blame any bad press on the socialist media machine and call it a day…

NCAA Tourney Bracket

I rarely watch college basketball, though I do keep up with my favorite team (San Diego State Aztecs). The last few years, the Aztecs have really become a power house program under the direction of Steve Fisher. The only time I watch college basketball is when it actually counts… the NCAA Tournament. Every other game during the season is nothing more than a warm up. Like previous years, I’m picking the home team to win it all.


Mind Games

The new TV show with Christian Slater and Steve Zahn is just about what you would expect from the latest genre de jour. It blends science with quirky but flawed characters and a few laughs to hook you, and engaging partially serialized storylines to keep you tuning in. It’s the same recipe that drove Fox’s House for years. If you haven’t checked Mind Games out, head over to ABC.com and give it a try.

Once a Generation…

morrissey-singerLooking at a video this morning posted by the red queen on her facebook account, a thought struck me. Every generation has their Elvis. Starting out as a dashing figure in music, making some odd food choices, then slowly ballooning in weight until they’re found dead on the toilet. Morrissey may very well be mine… Dapper at the start of his career? Check. Odd food choices? Check. Slowly ballooning in weight? Check. All that’s left is for someone to find him in the throne room, pants around his ankles.



Part of me wants the Broncos to win today. The part that believes the AFC West was the toughest division in football this year … mostly because it vindicates the Chargers for losing to them in the divisional round. Another part of me, the part that personally knows a number of broncos fans who rival the patriots for the label of most annoying cock knocking fans in sports want them to lose so those fans take it in the ass for their fanatical delusions these past few years. It’s a conundrum.